Tuesday, 11 March 2014 16:04

How to Overcome Stage Fright in Your Life

More confidence, less stress, discovering inner resources, improving relationships – there are thousands of self-help books to help us accomplish these, but do they work?

“Self-help strategies can work, as far as they go, but they don’t address a key component that affects everything from how we feel about ourselves to how successfully we interact with others,” says award-winning film director, producer and writer Dr. Richard R. Reichel.

“That key component is the fact that we’re all actors -- at work, school, home, even alone in front of the bathroom mirror. We’re always playing the character of ‘Me,’ but we also have to play other characters. The better we are at it, the happier and more successful we’ll be.”

But just like anyone who steps before an audience, sometimes we’re paralyzed by stage fright, says Reichel, author of the new book, “Everybody is an Actor,” (www.everybodyisanactor.com), a guide to achieving success in the film industry and in life.

“Stage fright undermines concentration and we lose our character objective,” he says. “Why do so many people cower in light of their dreams? Why do they procrastinate on getting their degree? Why do they tremble at the thought of approaching Mr. or Ms. Right? It’s because of stage fright.”

To overcome it, Reichel offers these tips from the Psychophantic System he developed to mold both life and film actors: 

• Control stress with a “mind walk” and “confocal contemplation.” Today, stress is associated with a variety of chronic illnesses. In addition to regular exercise and sleep nourishment, consider a “mind walk,” or a pleasant thought that stops the stress and replaces it with something positive. In the same vein, practice “confocal contemplation” by allowing your mind to wander into a cloudlet of peace and relaxing your body. Then, while thoughts are peacefully drifting, flex your feet, ankles, calves, shins, knees, buttocks and hips – and release. Feel the weight of your entire body while your mind remains free, and repeat the exercise.

• Practice projecting your emotions. How many times have you daydreamed about how you will express yourself when a particular situation arises? In the same way, we need to rehearse how we project our emotions in social situations. Try practicing emotional expression in front of a trusted friend or loved one. If someone has made you happy and joyous, rehearse how to show them in the moment. Showing love and laughter can strengthen bonds, and learning how to express anger, sorrow and fear in appropriate ways will improve your ability to communicate and foster understanding.  

• Winning your audience by emphasizing character strengths. No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something. In order to get what you want in life, you simply need to do what you’re good at. Your audience may be an employer, coworkers, family or a potential date. Can you make them laugh, understand or otherwise feel deeply what you’re expressing? Appealing to their emotional responses can go far. Keep in mind the hearts and minds of your audience, including the setting and what they must be experiencing during the “performance.” Be aware of your vocal projection and body language. You will be remembered for your performance, which will lead you to better roles and, in the case of daily living, better relationships.

Published in Blog

Upcoming Events

TG Shepphard @ Rollie's

Tue Dec 23 @ 8:00PM - 09:00PM
Sauk Rapids, MN – Rollie’s

LiFE Nightclub DJ Steve Angello

Wed Dec 31 @ 8:00PM - 09:00PM
LiFE Nightclub, Las Vegas, NV

Tyler, The Creator

Wed Dec 31 @10:00PM - 11:00PM
Club Nokia Los Angeles, CA


Wed Jan 07 @ 9:00PM - 10:00PM
Los Angeles, Ca Nokia Theater

Paul Simon & James Taylor

Tue Jan 20 @ 8:00PM - 09:00PM
The Appel Room at Jazz at Lincoln Center's Frederick P. Rose Hall, New York

Enrique Iglesias & Pitbull

Fri Feb 13 @ 7:00PM - 08:00PM
STAPLES Center 1111 S. Figueroa Los Angeles, CA 90015 (213) 742-7340

Celebrity Instagram

Latest instagram images from our favorite celebrities.